When can I grow
up?

11-class School of Foreign Languages, English blue-Jun Qing

Someone always say me that your the action
is so stupid, when will you grow up on earth. In the past, I would
very angry to hear that and think he does not know about me. There
is always an idea in my mind that I am strong to face and solve the
problems, I can make a good plan for my life alone. But recently
after experiencing some things, I feel I can agree with this
comments more.

Yes, I am still a young girl, even
though I have been nineteen years old. But what I do still give out
the sense that I am adolescent. Sometimes I attach complex factors
to some phenomenons to make believe that I can think something
in adult way. How childish it is! Growing up
has different definition.

One of it is how to use a suitable way
to deal with problems. In the world of adult , even only a simple
thing can be connected with lots of relations, but what is most
important is to protect your own profit without hurting others
openly. If referring to this matter will bring problems to
themselves, adults will seek some reasons to make a refusal to
others requirement. To do with the sort of these affairs mostly
need skills. If not, you maybe be threw into a situation that both
sides will complain about you. So in the future, you will lose many
potential energy to gain the success. In a word, how to solve the
problem is a big knowledge . When you can walk through the society
like fish, you can make a good living in the society.

Another is that you can do something
depending on yourself. There is a fact known to everyone that no
one will be always with you, even your parents, brothers and the
other part. Some day they will go away or die, but only yourself is
the only one who always stay with you, from the birth to the death.
It is time to make decisions alone, starting with something little.
Sometimes you are not able to control the exact direction of
affairs happening, but it is no matter. Why not have a try. Taking
parents for example, at their years, they should step forward with
the try lacking the help of others. For the new time oming, the
world and the future are so strange to them. They have created a
new face of the life, why can we . We should gain more courage,
the protection of the adults has kept us from experiencing the
challenges belonged to us. Of course, the concern from them is
necessary. They have experienced the difficulty of life and know
how it is hard to make a living. So they will try their best to
help and protect you. But it also has a negative influence on our
growing up. Only relied on relation, you will be left by the
development of the society. Nowadays, more and more companies pay
their attention on the skill and experience, if you lack them, what
you get only would be no. so doing thing by yourself, some creative
opinions which may be significant to the whole life will occur to
you, go outside to make your dream come true.

At the same time, a grow-up people also
need the ability to shoulder something happened suddenly. There are
many people around me whose parents get divorced, but I can feel
the complain and worry from them, they are just as usual. But I
know clearly that if this affair happened to me, I do not have the
courage to face. I am always sensitive to the relation between my
parents. I will be more nervous with a cold war in home. In this
moment, I think a lot of things, whether my parents will get
divorced, and what I will do? If I live with single parents, I will
not be so calm like most of my friends, I will put the sad on my
face all the time and let everyone knowing this show the sympathy
to me. Now, I realized that everyone has the rights to choose their
life regardless of others even for my parents. I should
not put others into the serious situation just
considering myself. it is my biggest shortcoming not to be brave
and calm to deal with the sudden problems.

Also, for a girl, what is important is
not how great and rich your boyfriend or husband is. It your
independent mind. In my opinion, girl should gain knowledge from
books and it is also a good way to kill time. Reading can do a
great effort to form your mind. The beautiful appearance maybe give
others a good feeling, but a stupid word can cover all the shinning
point. If you only know how to make-up and make dubious
relationship with men, everything will go away with the beauty
disappearing. But the independent mind can make you seem to be more
charming. Men can gain lots of ideas of the life and the future
with you, and feel that you are his spiritual stay. So why not stay
silently and read a book. When you bury yourself in it, you get a
quiet circumstance for body as well as soul. Why not improve your
self-cultivation through the communication with the great
thinker.

Another necessary factor is to be
generous. it is a common sense that girl used to be selfish in some
way. Just as the old saying goes that a major event is not to stick
at trifles. This is suitable to boys and girls. It is girls
instinct to ask the other one to give back all the presents when
some conflicts happened between them. What more, both sides will
say something bad to the other. How ridiculous it is! No one is
born to live for others. So you should not force others to do or to
think in the way you want. You should keep a open mind to tolerate
others tyle. Also it is not necessary for you to concern others
idea, just do what you want do. In this world, there must be
someone who do not like you no matter what you do. If you always
think whether she or he will be happy as doing something, you will
be tried and miss yourself. For others careless mistakes, a smile
can show the charm of your personality. But for some serious
troubles that others do for you, you should not think little of it < br /> any longer. If so, people may form an idea that you don care for
anything, something serious may happen again. It is very difficult
to balance two sides. You may turn many strangers into close
friends, also you may change many friends into strangers depending
on your attitude to different people and different things.

There is still a long way for me to
grow up, I always can learn many things as meeting with different
people, some good or some with many shortcomings. The college is a
good place for me to form a good character.